Using affirmations for yourself

"Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got."
~Janis Joplin~

The thing about positive self affirmations or self talk was summarised by the late Robert Anton Wilson when he said "what the thinker thinks, the prover proves".

We are ALL capable of far more than we think we are.

• They are positive healing self-scripts or affirmations that you give to yourself to counter your negative self-scripts.
• Self-affirmations are a way by which you can free yourself from the over-dependence on other's opinions, attitudes, or feelings about you and feel good about yourself.
• Self-affirmations enable you to take personal responsibility for your health and emotional stability.
• Self-affirmations are a way of visualizing a new order and sense in your life, which you can work toward achieving.
• Self-affirmations allow you to give yourself permission to grow, to change, to take risks, to rise up, and to create a better life for yourself.
• Self-affirmations are the recognition of your rights and affirming your claim on these rights, giving you an equitable chance of achieving your fullest potential.
• Self-affirmations are success prophecies that, when visualized, imagined, or believed in, do come true.

Far too often, people beat themselves up all day long, so focused on the negative, never once looking at the positive.

Break the habit of putting yourself down all the time and start a new habit of patting yourself on the back, it's ok, you're allowed.

I believe I am...

• a unique and precious human being.
• my own best friend and my own worst enemy.
• a loveable and loving person.
• capable of realizing my potential.
• self-respecting.
• responsible for my own behaviour.
• learning from my mistakes.
• creating a joyful life.
• an important part of the universe !!

Starting right now, commit to practicing positive self-affirmations, look around at all the good that surrounds you, you'll be surprised how much better you feel. Practice positive self-affirmations or self-talk on a daily basis and before you know it, it will become a habit.

So this brings us to the foundation to an effective and successful affirmation.

Believability - First and foremost your affirmation must be believable to your subconscious mind.

This is the stage where most of the affirmations people use, fall apart. For instance, you are so broke that you cannot even afford to pay attention.

Yet you now repeat to yourself "I earn 10,000 pounds or dollars per month", believable to your mind? I don't think so! Would you not agree that this is an unrealistic if not completely unbelievable message you are giving to the subconscious mind at this point while hoping for and not believing in a positive response.

Suggestion

Start by making choices and one of the best and easiest ways to do this is to begin your affirmations by using the words "I choose", so as opposed to:
"I earn 10,000 ponds or dollars per month"

Why not rather say "I choose to earn 10,000 pounds or dollars per month"

Try it!

Can you feel the difference? Even though you are not earning it yet, you are making a quantum leap in getting there by choosing to do so.

You now have the foundation, and are ready for the first building block to your successful affirmation.

Important Note: Your subconscious mind continuously hunts for proof.

As your subconscious mind can not distinguish between positive or negative, right or wrong, good or bad it will hunt for proof either way. Countless people stay in poverty because they associate pain, bad, wrong and so forth with money.

Every time they have to spend money, they think of their loans or their outstanding and unpaid bills which in turn unintentionally causes them crucial pain. Or whenever they desire financial abundance or prosperity their immediate response is, "It is wrong, I’m a bad person for desiring money" because most of us were raised to believe that scarcity is good and "being rich" is bad.

It is the feeling you attach to money that makes you rich or poor.

Now, how can you turn this to your advantage?

Next time you go out shopping, think of the pleasure of being able to spend as much money as you want to, on whatever you desire and feel it the pleasure instead of feeling pain.

What would happen if you associated pleasure with spending money?

Why not try the following?

At the moment you take out your money or credit card, say this affirmation to yourself "I always have more than enough to spend."

This affirmation is always true, as long as you have money left in your pocket, so the subconscious mind will believe it.

Why not combine the choice method which is the foundation with the proof method which is the building block.

For example next time you spend money say: "I choose to feel (foundation) that I always have more than enough to spend." You have money left in your pocket (building block), so the subconscious mind will believe it.

Observe how you feel. With these methods only a few times of real life choices and proof will make your subconscious mind believe it.

Next time you desire financial abundance instead of thinking it is bad or wrong, think of the good you can do, the opportunities you can give those close to you, look around you and immediately give thanks for one thing you have.

Feelization

Have you ever tried being depressed when you feel like a million bucks?

Have you ever tried having negative thoughts when you are feeling good?

I know that when I feel good, I can move mountains and everything is possible. It's impossible to feel both good and bad at the same time therefore the affirmation must trigger "feel good" feelings. I call this "feelization".

Feelings and emotions is what your subconscious mind understands best, it does not speak in words, your only way if communication is therefore through "feelization".

You can activate "feelization" in one of two ways:

• The first technique is to use words that involve feelings.

Use words like: "fun, pleasure, enjoyable, comfortable, easy, relaxed, delightful, amusing, wonderful, deserving, and good enough". They will work well.

• The second technique is to image, use your imagination.

Remember what it feels like, not to be able to stop laughing?

Remember what it feels like to have a grin on your face that cannot be wiped off, no matter what?

Create this "feeling good" state, you can use absolutely anything to create this state of feeling good.

Think of a great accomplishment, a fun time, a terrific vacation or winning the lottery.

Now visualize the situation stated in your affirmation has already come true, perceive yourself in that situation and feel the feelings of being successful & wealthy and living the life of your dreams.

The "P" Factor

Just like the "P" factor – position, position, position - in property we have the "P" factor in affirming – positive, personal, present (in the now).

Be POSITIVE. Use the most positive terms you can. Rather than saying "I am not fat", say "I choose to stay slim". The word "not" will be discarded by your subconscious mind, as it cannot distinguish positive from negative and will therefore hear "I am fat" which it will then seek to prove. Especially if you are a bit overweight, and are working at changing your beliefs around body image.

Use the PRESENT. You want your mind to know it has already happened. Make them short and specific. I suggest you keep in mind that the affirmation has to be believable to work. If you say "I have a million bucks", your mind will not believe you, need I say why? Combine with the choice method and rather say "I choose to have a million bucks". Here you might want to give yourself a timeframe but always remember "believability". Your mind will do its best to bring it into reality.

PERSONALIZE your affirmations. As your subconscious mind only works for you, not for others, saying "My partner finds me attractive and loves me" will not be effective, because you have no control over your partner. Rather say "I choose to feel attractive and loved by my partner", as with this affirmation you are only controlling your own feelings.

Lastly . . .

Always state your personal growth affirmations in the comparative.

"I am becoming more and more confident" or "I choose to feel more and more confident" will be much more effective than "I am confident".

You are not limiting yourself as to how much more confident you can become, by using the comparative, otherwise, your mind may think you are already confident enough, and it will not need to do any more work.

Learn how to word your affirmations correctly.

"Treat people, including yourself, as if you all were what you ought to be
and you will help them and yourself to become what you're capable of becoming."